If or When

If we get married...
When we get married...

If we have kids...
When we have kids....

If I graduate from college...
When I graduate from college..

If I eat cheese...
When I eat cheese...

If I go to graduate school...
When I go to graduate school...

I could easily write twenty more little sayings like those above there. But I think you get the point with the five I have.

I have two options on how I think about things most of the time. If or when. I can think about it as an if statement or a when statement. I generally always choose when. Not because I've been guaranteed to reach any of those things, but because I am hopeful. I am going to try to always say when. I will tell you that, When the Marine and I get married we will have to account for hundreds of people because our families are so large. Not because we are engaged and going to be married. But because I think and hope it's going to happen.

When I choose to think about things in an if format, I feel as though I'm doubting myself. I'm doubting whatever it is I'm talking about. And confidence is much better than doubt.

And if all of my plans happen to fall through (this time I feel an if statement is a good idea), I will just have to pick myself up and start planning again. This time with more when statements than ever before.